I just returned home from our first official family vacation in Montauk, NY and well, it was a little depressing. I will never complain about escaping New York City in the summer, but vacationing with a baby is not really a “vacation”, at least not in the way it was pre-baby. Simply put, having a baby changes your life and some of the changes are harder to accept than others.
In terms of vacation, my biggest concerns were deciding on the bikini I would wear, the type of frozen drink I would order and which book would I start first. Vacationing with a baby is so immensely different that not a single one of those thoughts entered my mind! Instead, my human alarm clock of a child woke up every morning at 5:30am and kept my husband and I busy all day. The term relaxing wasn’t mentioned or thought of a lot throughout the week. Actually, I take that back, I did say at least once, “this vacation is not relaxing.”
Overall I would say I’ve adjusted fairly well to life with baby, but I’m admittedly troubled by the new concept of a “vacation”. Call me dramatic, but will I ever relax again or enjoy a peaceful moment to myself? I am a little afraid to know the answer!
As a parent, I think it’s perfectly normal and expected in a lot of ways to miss aspects of life before baby. I plan to do a little moping and grieving the loss of my quiet time and mindless relaxation on vacation, but then it’s time to accept the “new normal” and move on. I may not be able to vacation like I used to, but I am excited to experience new adventures with my daughter in tow!
Do you find yourself struggling to adjust to life with baby? What do you miss most about your pre-parenting days?