Vacationing With Baby: The New Normal

I just returned home from our first official family vacation in Montauk, NY and well, it was a little depressing. I will never complain about escaping New York City in the summer, but vacationing with a baby is not really a “vacation”, at least not in the way it was pre-baby. Simply put, having a baby changes your life and some of the changes are harder to accept than others.

In terms of vacation, my biggest concerns were deciding on the bikini I would wear, the type of frozen drink I would order and which book would I start first. Vacationing with a baby is so immensely different that not a single one of those thoughts entered my mind! Instead, my human alarm clock of a child woke up every morning at 5:30am and kept my husband and I busy all day. The term relaxing wasn’t mentioned or thought of a lot throughout the week. Actually, I take that back, I did say at least once, “this vacation is not relaxing.”


Overall I would say I’ve adjusted fairly well to life with baby, but I’m admittedly troubled by the new concept of a “vacation”. Call me dramatic, but will I ever relax again or enjoy a peaceful moment to myself? I am a little afraid to know the answer!

As a parent, I think it’s perfectly normal and expected in a lot of ways to miss aspects of life  before baby. I plan to do a little moping and grieving the loss of my quiet time and mindless relaxation on vacation, but then it’s time to accept the “new normal” and move on. I may not be able to vacation like I used to, but I am excited to experience new adventures with my daughter in tow! 

Do you find yourself struggling to adjust to life with baby? What do you miss most about your pre-parenting days?


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8 Responses to Vacationing With Baby: The New Normal

  1. Courtney Bell September 4, 2013 at 2:04 am #

    Anna, I feel the same way often! I miss lounging on the couch on Sundays and shopping alone. Maybe in 14 or so years I will have that opportunity again 🙂

    • aajulien54 September 4, 2013 at 1:11 pm #

      I know! I feel like it’s ok to miss things about pre-baby life, as much as we love and adore our babies, it takes a little time to adjust!

  2. normaleverydaylife March 21, 2014 at 7:33 am #

    I have five children and I’m sorry to tell you that vacation is never truly relaxing again. 🙂 It does get much more fun to do things on vacation as they get older though! And we try to get away alone sometimes too. Last year my husband and I sent them all to different camps and traveled for a week by ourselves. Now that was relaxing! We’re going to do that again this year. Even just a night or two away by yourselves can make a big difference! #tbt

    • Anna Julien March 21, 2014 at 1:53 pm #

      Haha, I appreciate your honesty! I think the first one is always the hardest in the sense that you have such a culture shock! Thanks for stopping by!

  3. Jaimie March 21, 2014 at 9:01 am #

    I can definitely relate. Last year my 9 month old at the time pretty much just crawled on top of me at the beach. It pretty much destroyed my favorite thing to do…haha. I’m hoping this summer will be easier since he can walk and enjoys playing with his older sister. #tbtlinkup

    • Anna Julien March 21, 2014 at 1:54 pm #

      Thanks for stopping by! Let’s hope our summer vacations go a little smoother this year! 🙂


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