In the spirit of Mother’s Day, I wanted to write a post about the importance of taking time for yourself.
In the very beginning of life with baby, a day that included a shower before my husband came home from work was a big accomplishment. But as the weeks flew by, I realized the baby was able to play longer and take naps independent of me. When this first began, I wasn’t exactly sure what to do with myself and I almost felt a tinge of guilt that I wasn’t sitting playing with her or holding her while she napped. Well…that guilt wore off pretty quickly after I realized the things I could do while she napped! I looked around my apartment and saw dishes in the sink, laundry in the hamper and a number of other “domestic” projects I could tackle. However, I decided to take a nice long shower, dry my hair, and get ready for the day (I wore jeans!). I was such a better Mom to my daughter that day because for the first time in a long time I actually felt like myself again!
Becoming a first time Mom is such a departure from your previous life that you need to take some time for yourself, no matter what it is. When you focus so much of your attention on another human being, it’s very easy to lose sight of who you are. So, when your baby is old enough for a little independence, sneak away to take a nap, read a book, take a bath – whatever you need to do to relax and have a moment to yourself. Personally, I am at my best when I feel good – I’m happier and more confident in my ability to tackle the day and give my newborn everything she needs, which is quite a lot these days!